Well I didn't know it would cause a problem at the store with Alice. He had gotten her a cart so she could ride and he said she seemed fine until he told her he needed to pick up something for me. She said "So now you are shopping for her" he said Alice that is your sister, but it had already flipped her mood. She got upset and got out of the cart and left it in line. She went over to the greeter and stayed there. Irv had to ride it and he said I don't need it. He tried to get her to ride it out to the car with him and being the stubborn gal she has always been refused. He said I am not going to take her again. Of course he will.
That is how fast she changes and you never know what will make her act like a different person. When she got back she had forgotten she was upset and was fine when she came in the front room.
We can not keep her from bending over to pick up stuff on the floor . We keep reminding her that she is not suppose to do that because she could lose her balance and fall. She did not remember and Irv was in one chair and Dave was standing by the door and Alice saw a small piece of something (honey her eyes are perfect) none of us see what she sees. Well the point is she lost her balance and if David had not been standing near her and grabbed her shoulder she would have hit the coffee table and been on the floor. She says Irv is always mad at her and just does not want her to do anything. We talked with her and tried to explain we love her and just don't want her to fall. She said I am glad to are telling me this now I will remember. Let's see how many times have we gone through the same talk? ummm maybe 100 times.
Irv also has notes on the wall in the kitchen not to feed Mandy food as she has diabetes. Again she says each time we catch her " I didn't know a dog could get a human disease".
If you are the type of person that hates to keep answering the same question over and over again living with an Alzheimer patient takes a lot of patience. Remember when your kids were little and would ask questions over and over. You got it. This is the same thing. Sooner are later your kids finely get it, but that will not happen with your loved living with Alzheimer's.
By the time I was getting ready to leave Alice had already changed back in to the sweet loving person I always remembered.
You know none of us is perfect and we have said or done things that we might wish we could take back , but you can't do that. You just have to try not do it again. At least with Alice she does not remember those things. I have seen her anger times and I just pray that as the days go by they don't take over her daily life more than it does now. I and the family go out of our way to make her have pleasant surroundings around her. David has talked to me few times after Alice said things to me "Jessie you just have to have tough skin and let things roll off like a ducks back". OK Quack Quack! lol
Well another day to come.
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